Want to resolve a conflict? – Try this!
You’re in an argument.
You are both looking at the same topic and have a totally different point of view.
You are so clear that your understanding of the situation is right because it is your TRUTH. It feels good to you so why can’t the other person just see things your way?
You don’t want this conflict!
At our core we know that we live in a UNIverse where there is only ONE Truth. Where we are all ONE. We have this inner drive to find our truth to make sense of our life. However, on this planet, at this time, we live in a dualistic world. … and so we are conflicted within ourselves.
This inner conflict plays out in the outer world where we come up against others who see the world differently. In our upbringing we have been conditioned that ‘being right’ is important for our survival. Defending our position has become paramount. It’s how things have played out on a small and large scale for eons and as a result there are either winners or losers, right or wrong.
How can we be in a situation where we know of the Oneness of all-that-is and still have a unique point of view? It may be counter-intuitive, but the realization that there is only ONE Truth is actually our salvation!
It is the reason why we CAN resolve our conflicts!
When we can get out of the winner/looser mentality and assume everyone is ‘right’ in their perspective, then the answer does not lie in converting others but rather looking for a missing element, an additional dimension, that allows many points of view to be present at the same time.
What does adding a new dimension look like?
Imagine a stationary globe between two stationary people.
When both people look at the single globe, they each only see a circle with two very different land/water mass distributions.
Similarly, by adding a new dimension when discussing any topic we would immediately realize that there are many points of view, … and they are all ‘right’.
So, the next time you are in a conflicting situation, ask this question:
What is at the essence of this particular topic?
Chances are that you will come up with the same answer!
What we need to do is to
- step back from the drama,
- believe that we are all ‘right’, and
- find what truly matters about this situation.
At our core we all want the same thing!
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